(Special K cereal....not my first pick)
Have you ever really thought about expectations that are set? I mean generally speaking the average person is given expectations to reach for on a daily basis. Of course many are so small that we don't think twice before accomplishing these goals all the while meeting an expectation that someone laid before us.
I am currently attempting to reach the expectations set for being a mother. And as I go along I am realizing that they are not equal to that of a father....WHY IS THAT? Now don't get me wrong fathers are important trust me I would know but a mother's role in her children's lives seems to take on a whole other form. My role (aka the expectations set) as a wife have stayed the same. I still cook, grocery shop, clean, and care for my husband and our home. When I became a mother diapers, baths, feedings, changings, more laundry, and general needs of our baby girl were added. NOTHING was taken to even out the score. This is not intended to be a cut at my husband or any other fathers out there as he works full time so that I have water to wash clothes, money to buy groceries, those clothes and diapers. But I have many friends who as mothers work full time and still have their wife and mother duties (aka expectations) all at the same time.
Now do we take on these roles as wives and mothers and then our husbands slowly come to expect them OR are they expected and we fall into our role? Chicken...egg...you get the idea. And if we do this to ourself...WHAT WERE WE THINKING????? Ok that's it I need that bottle of wine from yesterday :)
I am currently attempting to reach the expectations set for being a mother. And as I go along I am realizing that they are not equal to that of a father....WHY IS THAT? Now don't get me wrong fathers are important trust me I would know but a mother's role in her children's lives seems to take on a whole other form. My role (aka the expectations set) as a wife have stayed the same. I still cook, grocery shop, clean, and care for my husband and our home. When I became a mother diapers, baths, feedings, changings, more laundry, and general needs of our baby girl were added. NOTHING was taken to even out the score. This is not intended to be a cut at my husband or any other fathers out there as he works full time so that I have water to wash clothes, money to buy groceries, those clothes and diapers. But I have many friends who as mothers work full time and still have their wife and mother duties (aka expectations) all at the same time.
Now do we take on these roles as wives and mothers and then our husbands slowly come to expect them OR are they expected and we fall into our role? Chicken...egg...you get the idea. And if we do this to ourself...WHAT WERE WE THINKING????? Ok that's it I need that bottle of wine from yesterday :)
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